Can You Prepare for Loss?
“For which of you, desiring to build a tower, does not first sit down and count the cost, whether he has enough to complete it?” Luke 14:28 A few months…
Kim’s Faith During Loss
When it comes to loss, losing Kim was not my first experience. It is by far the most difficult loss I have faced, but I have been through a few…
The Day the Tears Didn’t Show Up
“My eye has grown dim from vexation, and all my members are like a shadow.” Job 17:7 They say grief is personal. No one can tell you how you should…
Lowness, Heaviness, and Acceptance—The Illegal Squatter
“It is he who remembered us in our low estate, for his steadfast love endures forever…” Psalm 136:23 Over six months into my grief, a sense of pervasive lowness came…
Mourning an Altered Future
“Therefore do not be anxious about tomorrow, for tomorrow will be anxious for itself. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble.” Matthew 6:34 Kim died on a Monday morning. The very next…
Expect to Deal with Brutal Details
“God you know how much I wish I could just hear you say the words and answer all the questions everybody’s asking.” Steven Curtis Chapman, Sound of Your Voice Confusion…
Fiercely Focus on Facing the Firsts
“So she called the name of the Lord who spoke to her, ‘You are a God of seeing,’ for she said, ‘Truly here I have seen him who looks after…
Warning: “Timehop” Is Going to Gut Punch You When You Least Expect It
The Unintended Anguishing Aspect of Automated Algorithms As I approach the second anniversary of Kim's death I decided a special blog entry was in order. Anniversaries and special days are…
How a Smoldering Fire Reignited
“When I’m with you my spirit soars…” Rend Collective, I Will Be Undignified One of my first work-related events after Kim’s death was in Ohio. I was to speak three…
Avoiding Temptation and Evil—The Lord’s Prayer
“…forgive us our debts as we forgive our debtors. And lead us not into temptation…” Matthew 6:12-13 Jesus moves from the topic of seeking provision and forgiveness—and our offering forgiveness…